Posts tagged the denial of death
Who is Gender Non-Conforming
Who is Gender Non-Conforming

Masc4Who (?)...Throughout my journey, I continue to run into the same nagging question...are you masc? Whether responding through Grindr, through MATTHEW's "Str8-bro" appearance, or through CHICO's cruelty, I've desperately clung to my answer---"YES, I'm masculine!"---to feel "normal" and powerful. Who pays the ultimate price for masculinity, though? 

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Into the LightMatthew Chicolagender non-conforming, gender, sex, the velvet rage, The velvet rage, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, Alan Downs, robert jensen, masculine, dominant, discreet, grindr, rape, rape culture, masculinity, manhood, religion, nature, nurture, the denial of death, ernest becker, identity, purpose, spirituality, soul, perfectionism, control, domination, trauma, bully, bullying, vulnerability, authenticity, selfless, selflessness, balance, spider, spider web, web, web unspunComment
Who is Sensual
Who is Sensual

Is it actually possible to have our cake and eat it too when it comes to sex? Too often, I'm left waiting for CHICO to blow out all the candles to really enjoy a taste. Will Who ever get a satisfying piece?

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicolasweet dreams, 80s, eurythmics, whitney houston, i wanna dance with somebody, grindr, sex, sexuality, homosexuality, gay, lgbt, Alan Downs, the velvet rage, ernest becker, the denial of death, masculinity, sex addiction, addiction, getting off, robert jensen, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, sadomasochism, objectification, stigmatization, fetishization, marginalization, the epidemic of gay loneliness, michael hobbes, james baldwin, love, heart, heartbeat, empathy, dancing Comment
Who is Hopeful
Who is Hopeful

Why did the chicken cross the road? It would seem out of his/her character to make such a bold move, unless of course it was a means to escape. What was the chicken hoping to reach or to achieve by crossing? Who is bwoking to find out.

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Into the LightMatthew Chicolachicago, survival, equitable treatment, animal, animal welfare, bugs, insects, butterfly, hope, inspiration, The Way, the way, michael berg, the denial of death, ernest becker, grand rapids, nature, Nature and the human soul, photography, bill plotkin, mystery, light, dark, psychology, spirituality, soulComment
Who is an Animal
Who is an Animal

I haven't figured out all the tricks I can do with my spots yet, but Put Me in the Zoo, by Robert Lopshire, was a favorite childhood story because I thought it would be so much fun to live among the animals. Could CHICO handle all those eyes watching every move now, though? Who wants to stay.

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicolacharlotte's web, muppets, animal, animal welfare, frank oz, E. B. White, Put me in the zoo, robert lopshire, the denial of death, ernest becker, The Way, the way, michael berg, wilbur, existential, existentialismComment
Who is (Endless) Love
Who is (Endless) Love

The Cardigans "Lovefool" may not be the biggest hit, but the song's repetitive lyrics ("Love me, love me, say that you love me...Leave me leave me just say that you need me") perfectly illustrate what made me so foolish in love. How can love become a many splendored thing? My gift is my web. 

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Into the LightMatthew Chicolalove, endless love, power of love, heartless, love hurts, lovefool, the denial of death, ernest becker, berg, michael berg, The Way, the way, the velvet rage, The velvet rage, Alan Downs, wicked, elphaba, glinda, god, heart, emotionComment
Who is Not (So) Afraid
Who is Not (So) Afraid

I ain't afraid of no ghosts. Actually, I am a bit afraid of ghosts, but I'll leave that work to the professionals (aka Ghostbusters) while I wrestle with my ego in the dark. What will CHICO look like if/when I open my eyes, though? If you're seein' things runnin' thru your head, click here. 

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicoladarkness, nickelodeon, afraid, fear, psychoanalysis, ernest becker, the denial of death, the universe story, brian swimme, thomas berry, existential, existence, spirituality, spirit, soul, monster, scaryComment