Posts tagged masculinity
Who is Confident
Who is Confident

Public speaking. It may be the most anxiety-producing task I've tackled in my professional journey, yet, it also elevated my confidence as I found my voice among the crowd. How are we encouraging (or deterring) growth in the scramble for the top of the workplace food chain? Who tries to get ahead of the game?

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicolacharlottesville, virginia, workplace, work, profession, professional, career, dog eat dog, julia cameron, the artist's way, spirituality, creativity, creative, art, love, compassion, bill plotkin, Nature and the human soul, wall street journal, alex lickerman, confidence, psychology, psychology today, competence, intrinsic worth, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, getting off, robert jensen, masculinity, masculine, genderComment
Who is Gender Non-Conforming
Who is Gender Non-Conforming

Masc4Who (?)...Throughout my journey, I continue to run into the same nagging question...are you masc? Whether responding through Grindr, through MATTHEW's "Str8-bro" appearance, or through CHICO's cruelty, I've desperately clung to my answer---"YES, I'm masculine!"---to feel "normal" and powerful. Who pays the ultimate price for masculinity, though? 

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Into the LightMatthew Chicolagender non-conforming, gender, sex, the velvet rage, The velvet rage, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, Alan Downs, robert jensen, masculine, dominant, discreet, grindr, rape, rape culture, masculinity, manhood, religion, nature, nurture, the denial of death, ernest becker, identity, purpose, spirituality, soul, perfectionism, control, domination, trauma, bully, bullying, vulnerability, authenticity, selfless, selflessness, balance, spider, spider web, web, web unspunComment
Who is Sensual
Who is Sensual

Is it actually possible to have our cake and eat it too when it comes to sex? Too often, I'm left waiting for CHICO to blow out all the candles to really enjoy a taste. Will Who ever get a satisfying piece?

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicolasweet dreams, 80s, eurythmics, whitney houston, i wanna dance with somebody, grindr, sex, sexuality, homosexuality, gay, lgbt, Alan Downs, the velvet rage, ernest becker, the denial of death, masculinity, sex addiction, addiction, getting off, robert jensen, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, sadomasochism, objectification, stigmatization, fetishization, marginalization, the epidemic of gay loneliness, michael hobbes, james baldwin, love, heart, heartbeat, empathy, dancing Comment