Posts tagged The velvet rage
Who is Gender Non-Conforming
Who is Gender Non-Conforming

Masc4Who (?)...Throughout my journey, I continue to run into the same nagging question...are you masc? Whether responding through Grindr, through MATTHEW's "Str8-bro" appearance, or through CHICO's cruelty, I've desperately clung to my answer---"YES, I'm masculine!"---to feel "normal" and powerful. Who pays the ultimate price for masculinity, though? 

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Who is (Endless) Love
Who is (Endless) Love

The Cardigans "Lovefool" may not be the biggest hit, but the song's repetitive lyrics ("Love me, love me, say that you love me...Leave me leave me just say that you need me") perfectly illustrate what made me so foolish in love. How can love become a many splendored thing? My gift is my web. 

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Who is a (Proud) Gay Man
Who is a (Proud) Gay Man

How do you show pride in your identity? A wise philosophical leader once said, "If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you going to love somebody else? Can I get an Amen?" Life lessons from RuPaul are still life lessons! How do you express love for who you are inside and out? Taste the rainbow.

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