Posts tagged grindr
Who is Gender Non-Conforming
Who is Gender Non-Conforming

Masc4Who (?)...Throughout my journey, I continue to run into the same nagging question...are you masc? Whether responding through Grindr, through MATTHEW's "Str8-bro" appearance, or through CHICO's cruelty, I've desperately clung to my answer---"YES, I'm masculine!"---to feel "normal" and powerful. Who pays the ultimate price for masculinity, though? 

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Into the LightMatthew Chicolagender non-conforming, gender, sex, the velvet rage, The velvet rage, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, Alan Downs, robert jensen, masculine, dominant, discreet, grindr, rape, rape culture, masculinity, manhood, religion, nature, nurture, the denial of death, ernest becker, identity, purpose, spirituality, soul, perfectionism, control, domination, trauma, bully, bullying, vulnerability, authenticity, selfless, selflessness, balance, spider, spider web, web, web unspunComment
Who is Sensual
Who is Sensual

Is it actually possible to have our cake and eat it too when it comes to sex? Too often, I'm left waiting for CHICO to blow out all the candles to really enjoy a taste. Will Who ever get a satisfying piece?

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Into the DarkMatthew Chicolasweet dreams, 80s, eurythmics, whitney houston, i wanna dance with somebody, grindr, sex, sexuality, homosexuality, gay, lgbt, Alan Downs, the velvet rage, ernest becker, the denial of death, masculinity, sex addiction, addiction, getting off, robert jensen, getting off: pornography and the end of masculinity, sadomasochism, objectification, stigmatization, fetishization, marginalization, the epidemic of gay loneliness, michael hobbes, james baldwin, love, heart, heartbeat, empathy, dancing Comment
Who is Listening
Who is Listening

As I was physically developing, my ears outgrew my head. Yes, I heard my fair share of Dumbo jokes, yet I still struggled to really listen despite my ear size. I suppose bigger doesn't make for better, so how do we perfect the art of listening? Do you hear what Who hears?

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Into the LightMatthew ChicolaThe Way, the way, berg, michael berg, listening, judgment, validation, psychology, spirituality, compassion, the velvet rage, Alan Downs, grindr, anxiety, lgbt, the universe story, brian swimme, thomas berry, huron-manistee, national forests, michigan, chicago, bucktown, nonjudgmental, spirit, soulComment